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Chick House and Dude House
Chick House and Dude House There are many differences between a Chick House and a Dude House. One of the things I got to do … Read More
How to raise creative kids.
I grew up on Kauai in Hawaii in the 1970’s, a hippie child with few possessions and no TV. I firmly believe that free time … Read More
Phases of the empty nest: taking back my house one room at a time
My recent post on Finding Your Calling made me think about the overlap between “roles” (like parent, spouse) and “jobs” or career. For me, being … Read More
Fifth time’s the charm: another call to Child Welfare.
***ALL IDENTIFYING DETAILS CHANGED TO PROTECT CONFIDENTIALITY***** Some of you already know that in my “real life” I’m a school counselor and therapist. Today there’s … Read More
Making the call to Child Protective Services
Sometimes I hate my job as a school counselor and therapist. Something bad happened over the weekend to one of my student clients. Her face … Read More
Kids should read more. Adults too.
Nothing makes me happier than seeing a book in a kid’s hands. It’s kind of a visceral thing, because books are one of the finest … Read More
Airport love.
Airports. There’s really only one way to get here, folks. Forget trains, automobiles and even boats (except for freight) people come to Hawaii through the … Read More
Rites of passage: across all cultures and throughout time.
Rite of passage –noun 1. Anthropology . a ceremony performed to facilitate or mark a person’s change of status upon any of several highly important … Read More
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Tagged adventure, narrative therapy, parenting, rites of passage
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Traveling with kids–whether you like it or not
Everything about this trip has been wonderfully smooth. Mom picked us up in the Red Rocket (aka sister’s van) and dropped us off at the … Read More
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Thoughts on being a mom on Mother’s Day
Our girl is graduating from college this coming Saturday. In a fugue state, I address the announcements. How did it happen so fast? I still … Read More
