It’s my birthday, and I’ll cry if I want to.

Yep, the above says it all. 2011 was a tough year for many, and for me and my husband. (see Painless is Feeling Good, The Ring Doesn't Come Off )  As part of being hopeful about 2012, I accepted an invitation from some dear and far-flung friends to participate in an...

Outwitting anticipatory grief.

Many of you know I'm a therapist, and this week I'm seeing clients who are universally… let down. No matter how great Christmas was, it's over now, with nothing left but leftovers, extra pounds around the waist, the Christmas crap to take down and put away and,...

Breathe here now.

Sometimes I forget to breathe. Confession time–I've got a bit of a Superwoman complex. If there's someone in need (including a small yappy dog) I think I'm the one to rescue. This “complex” has led to an absolutely crazy schedule, one in which at the...

10 Things I’ve Learned

This has been a stressful year, filled with transitions and change. Change is not a favored activity for most humans. We tend to form habits (to save energy) patterns and ruts, and when major changes occur, stress happens. This leads me to #1: #1: Stress is a good...

How do you get to doing what you love?

This is one person's story. I do what I love. I'm a therapist, and its my privilege and honor to witness stories, hold the bottle for tears, and be present in the deepest pain and greatest breakthroughs. What a calling! and for us, this unique modern priesthood, each...

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