by toby | Feb 8, 2011 | Life
I often have parents in my office doing what we now call “parent education” (a.k.a. family therapy.) I find myself saying the same things over and over to a variety of faces so I thought I’d distill them here into the “Big Eight” parenting mistakes....
by toby | Feb 3, 2011 | Life
Remember I was sharing The Secret to Happiness a few weeks ago? I said that most unhappiness is the result of disappointed expectations, and I stand behind that. That’s why I tried not to over-anticipate anything for Mike and my 25th anniversary—the plan included...
by toby | Jan 28, 2011 | Life
Over Christmas break, my daughter found a neglected 6 pound scrap of elderly Pomeranian wandering outside our neighborhood in the dead of night. His collar had to be cut out of (color indeterminate) matted dreadlocks, his toenails were so long they looked like curling...
by toby | Jan 23, 2011 | The Writing Life
I follow an excellent blog, Guide to Literary Agents, with lots of good articles and such. One of the ongoing articles is “7 things I’ve Learned” and that prompted this blog because, amazingly, everyone’s Things are different. We are all ‘snowflakes’ after all, even...
by toby | Jan 19, 2011 | The Writing Life
It is an exceptionally clear, warm and gorgeous day at the park on the side of Haleakala. The ocean, glowing blue mystery, merges with the sky in the distance and holds the floating green/purple island of Lanai, and the striated majesty of the West Maui Mountains,...