The “Big Eight” parenting mistakes.

I often have parents in my office doing what we now call “parent education” (a.k.a. family therapy.) I find myself saying the same things over and over to a variety of faces so I thought I’d distill them here into the “Big Eight” parenting mistakes....

Sometimes happiness just gives you a wallop.

Remember I was sharing The Secret to Happiness a few weeks ago? I said that most unhappiness is the result of disappointed expectations, and I stand behind that. That’s why I tried not to over-anticipate anything for Mike and my 25th anniversary—the plan included...

‘Pono’ means “do the right thing.”

Over Christmas break, my daughter found a neglected 6 pound scrap of elderly Pomeranian wandering outside our neighborhood in the dead of night. His collar had to be cut out of (color indeterminate) matted dreadlocks, his toenails were so long they looked like curling...

The Secret to Happiness

e`vent (-vnt) n. 1. a. Something that takes place; an occurrence. b. A significant occurrence or happening. See Synonyms at occurrence. c. A social gathering or activity. 2. The final result; the outcome. 3. Sports A contest or an item in a sports program. 4. Physics...

no Florence Nightingale

Growing up, being sick was seen as a sort of moral failing—something you probably brought on yourself through poor hygiene, eating junk food, associating with lepers or some other stupidity. I remember at least one birthday desperately trying to conceal an oncoming...

“The ring doesn’t come off,” he said.

Everyone has a story, and it’s this fascination with people’s stories that’s been such a big part of my life as both a therapist and a writer. In my story, it’s dark out, 4:30 AM, and I’ve already been awake for an hour or two. My husband’s in the hospital on day...

Join My Email Book List

Receive not one but two welcome gift ebooks! For crime thriller and mystery lovers, you can download book 2 in the award winning Lei Crime series FREE.
If you love romance, join my romance list and receive book one in the Somewhere Series, Somewhere on St. Thomas. Join now and stay up to date on sales, new releases, freebies, and giveaways!

You have Successfully Subscribed!

Sign up for my newsletter and I'll send you a link to download Torch Ginger as a FREE welcome gift

You have Successfully Subscribed!

Author Coaching

Join Toby's author coaching newsletter for tips and news for your writing journey!

You have Successfully Subscribed!