by toby | Feb 8, 2011 | Life
I often have parents in my office doing what we now call “parent education” (a.k.a. family therapy.) I find myself saying the same things over and over to a variety of faces so I thought I’d distill them here into the “Big Eight” parenting mistakes....
by toby | Feb 3, 2011 | Life
Remember I was sharing The Secret to Happiness a few weeks ago? I said that most unhappiness is the result of disappointed expectations, and I stand behind that. That’s why I tried not to over-anticipate anything for Mike and my 25th anniversary—the plan included...
by toby | Jan 28, 2011 | Life
Over Christmas break, my daughter found a neglected 6 pound scrap of elderly Pomeranian wandering outside our neighborhood in the dead of night. His collar had to be cut out of (color indeterminate) matted dreadlocks, his toenails were so long they looked like curling...
by toby | Jan 15, 2011 | Life
e`vent (-vnt) n. 1. a. Something that takes place; an occurrence. b. A significant occurrence or happening. See Synonyms at occurrence. c. A social gathering or activity. 2. The final result; the outcome. 3. Sports A contest or an item in a sports program. 4. Physics...
by toby | Jan 5, 2011 | Life
Growing up, being sick was seen as a sort of moral failing—something you probably brought on yourself through poor hygiene, eating junk food, associating with lepers or some other stupidity. I remember at least one birthday desperately trying to conceal an oncoming...
by toby | Jan 2, 2011 | Life
Everyone has a story, and it’s this fascination with people’s stories that’s been such a big part of my life as both a therapist and a writer. In my story, it’s dark out, 4:30 AM, and I’ve already been awake for an hour or two. My husband’s in the hospital on day...