by toby | Dec 2, 2014 | Life
How have smartphones changed us? I was an initial resister to the smartphone, having vague “mental health” concerns about intrusiveness, getting overly attached to my device, not being present in the moment, and being tracked by government agencies just because they...
by toby | Sep 30, 2014 | Life
The three terrible things I learned from a dream glimpsing the afterlife were not, at first, obvious. I woke up hard this morning. As in, I’d gone so far away I wasn’t sure I’d returned. I lay in bed for a long time not sure I was awake, and then I lifted my hands up...
by toby | Sep 18, 2014 | Life
Handling grief is necessary, and no one gets through life without dealing with this tough emotion. Grief is one of the main reasons clients come to therapy, and in fact many of life’s toughest issues (divorce, aging, abuse recovery) come with an underpinning of grief...
by toby | Aug 12, 2014 | Life
Life lessons one second of video every day is teaching me to notice all the tiny precious seconds, like grains of sand in an hourglass, passing by in my life—never to be experienced, seen or known again in the same way. Let me first back up and tell a little story of...
by toby | Jul 21, 2014 | Life
I am beginning a writing retreat with my friend Holly Robinson at her house in Prince Edward Island, Canada…but getting there, from Maui, is not a simple matter. It’s planes, trains and automobiles! I broke up the epic 6,000 mile-plus journey by going to San Francisco...
by toby | Jul 20, 2014 | Life
To begin my wine country safari, I took the ferry from San Francisco to Marin, this time with no problems and unexpectedly, in a city of over a million people, meeting my brother-in-law Danny taking the same boat after his morning shift driving the bus. We yakked all...