by toby | May 16, 2012 | Life
(ALL NAMES AND DETAILS CHANGED TO PROTECT CONFIDENTIALITY.) Some of you know I’m a school counselor and therapist. This year has been interesting as I’m at two schools, one of them without a school counselor (I’m supposed to be a “higher level” service.) This means I...
by toby | May 8, 2012 | Life
“Grown here, not flown here.” Integration in Hawaii: is there such a thing? The mystery that is the social strata of life in Hawaii is something I’m exploring in my Lei books, something that’s so complex, multilayered, multiethnic, and fraught with...
by toby | Mar 25, 2012 | Life
***ALL IDENTIFYING DETAILS CHANGED TO PROTECT CONFIDENTIALITY***** Some of you already know that in my “real life” I'm a school counselor and therapist. Today there’s a picture of a bruise on my phone. I took that picture hours earlier, holding my...
by toby | Mar 17, 2012 | Life
When you grow up in a place like Kaua`i, it does something to you. The island's enchantment ruins everywhere else. I call it being corrupted by beauty. This can be difficult, because ever after you try to find a way to live in a place people visit on vacation, and...
by toby | Mar 8, 2012 | Life
I grew up on Kaua`i. You probably don't appreciate what a statement that is, but Kauai is a place of extremes. Extreme beauty. Extreme isolation. Extreme weather. Extreme attitudes. It's a very small place–when I was a kid, stable population of less than 35,000...