Looking forward to showing this hidden gem, the Red Sand Beach, to the kids!

Many of you know I'm a therapist, and this week I'm seeing clients who are universally… let down. No matter how great Christmas was, it's over now, with nothing left but leftovers, extra pounds around the waist, the Christmas crap to take down and put away and, even worse–an incoming Visa bill to pay for it all. There's nothing more to look forward to except the long slog to spring (in our case in Maui, more tedious rainbows!) and the eventual buildup to some other anticipated event.

Humans don't like to lose anything. Even when the having is dubious at best. So we have a coping mechanism for this called anticipatory grief, in which we feel the loss and separation of loved ones/treasured trinkets/special events/our soul before it's even gone. Can you see the illogic of this? And yet we all do it.

It robs from the present to try to cushion the future–when all we have is the present.

So here's a thought. Set up something wonderful to do the week after New Year's, whether it's a spa day, a post-holiday credit-card burning party, even a Wallow In Self Pity Retreat (I'm in favor of these to keep whining and self indulgence contained). In addition, practice some mindfulness–breathe and occupy your body, notice, be present for the present. It's probably not that bad, and if you do a gratitude list, you'll find your attitude shifting into something more positive.

As for me and my house, we are hitting the road for Hana, leaving the dishes in the sink and the Christmas lights up. I'll let you know next week if it worked!

Can't ever see this too often. Just looking heals the eyes.

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