by toby | May 8, 2012 | Life
“Grown here, not flown here.” Integration in Hawaii: is there such a thing? The mystery that is the social strata of life in Hawaii is something I’m exploring in my Lei books, something that’s so complex, multilayered, multiethnic, and fraught with...
by toby | Apr 30, 2012 | Life
(An autobiographical essay.) Golden dust motes rose and spiraled in the lance of sun that came through the skylight as the teenage girl dusted. She wielded an ostrich-feather duster with more art than function—she liked to imagine it was a fancy fan, and she a belle...
by toby | Apr 19, 2012 | Life
I woke up this morning thinking about razors. Specifically, about razors for a homeless teen… along with soap, shampoo, a toothbrush and food for his cat. But first I have to back up and share a post from pundit Seth Godin. (He's the one to come up with the catchy...
by toby | Apr 11, 2012 | Life
Stress. Distractibility. It's everywhere. I don't wonder why I'm stressed. I work at a stressful job (therapy with children and adolescents is far from the sit-down airconditioned affair people imagine therapy to be) I also overschedule myself and set some pretty...
by toby | Mar 25, 2012 | Life
***ALL IDENTIFYING DETAILS CHANGED TO PROTECT CONFIDENTIALITY***** Some of you already know that in my “real life” I'm a school counselor and therapist. Today there’s a picture of a bruise on my phone. I took that picture hours earlier, holding my...
by toby | Mar 17, 2012 | Life
When you grow up in a place like Kaua`i, it does something to you. The island's enchantment ruins everywhere else. I call it being corrupted by beauty. This can be difficult, because ever after you try to find a way to live in a place people visit on vacation, and...