#Kaua`i: an island of extremes.

I grew up on Kaua`i. You probably don't appreciate what a statement that is, but Kauai is a place of extremes. Extreme beauty. Extreme isolation. Extreme weather. Extreme attitudes. It's a very small place–when I was a kid, stable population of less than 35,000...

Declutterizing. Somewhat like an enema.

I finished my desk declutterizing, and yes, it was somewhat like an enema. (We have lots of people who swear by colonics' health benefits over here, along with crystals, marijuana as a lifestyle enhancer, etc) Here, in no particular order, are some of my discoveries:...

The gift of a grandmother.

I had two amazing grandmothers. You'll note the past tense. They're both gone now, and I still miss them. They couldn't have been more different but in some scary ways, the same. My grandmother GeeGee was a classic: Republican, Catholic, bridge-playing, country-club...

It’s my birthday, and I’ll cry if I want to.

Yep, the above says it all. 2011 was a tough year for many, and for me and my husband. (see Painless is Feeling Good, The Ring Doesn't Come Off )  As part of being hopeful about 2012, I accepted an invitation from some dear and far-flung friends to participate in an...

Outwitting anticipatory grief.

Many of you know I'm a therapist, and this week I'm seeing clients who are universally… let down. No matter how great Christmas was, it's over now, with nothing left but leftovers, extra pounds around the waist, the Christmas crap to take down and put away and,...

Christmas is rainbow season.

I'm a Christmas lover. And in Hawaii we like to do it up big, with all the trappings–even when they are a little ridiculous (okay a lot ridiculous) like plastic snowmen and spray snow on the windows. This year Christmas is minimalist for us, and that has made me...

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