by toby | May 29, 2012 | Life
My recent post on Finding Your Calling made me think about the overlap between “roles” (like parent, spouse) and “jobs” or career. For me, being a mom has been part of being a therapist. I specialize in child/adolescent therapy in large part because one of my children...
by toby | Feb 4, 2012 | Life
I had two amazing grandmothers. You'll note the past tense. They're both gone now, and I still miss them. They couldn't have been more different but in some scary ways, the same. My grandmother GeeGee was a classic: Republican, Catholic, bridge-playing, country-club...
by toby | Sep 10, 2011 | Life
Sometimes I hate my job as a school counselor and therapist. Something bad happened over the weekend to one of my student clients. Her face is unusually shuttered, eyes down, monosyllabic answers to my questions, denials that anything more than a “fight”...
by toby | Jul 28, 2011 | Life
Nothing makes me happier than seeing a book in a kid's hands. It's kind of a visceral thing, because books are one of the finest things we've done as a species. I have some new adolescent clients, and when the kid showed up at my office with a book in his...
by toby | Jun 20, 2011 | Life
Father’s Day 2011 was a big one for Renaissance Man and I, the first ever where we had no children on island to share it with. As of this month, both kids are independent and launched, and we are facing this: A wide open road. Which neither of us are necessarily happy...